octobergonz

Love this video and think the song is so fun and creative. makes me laugh.

Your palms are sweaty, your heart is pounding, and you can’t help but notice when you look in the mirror the tiny gray hairs that keep popping up on your head, and first stages of crows feet growing deeper and deeper into the side of your face. WHAT is the problem right? We ALL get older, we ALL age so why are you freaking out?? Wait… i know, i know, you are turning 30 in a week and you aren’t married yet?!? You must have some serious issues girlfriend! your EGGS are dying as we speak, you haven’t been out on a decent date in months and your collection of romantic comedies, ben & jerrys, and SPANX have increased substantially in the past year. YOU are a loser, and YOU are going to end up knitting booties for your 9,000 cats and dying alone if you don’t do something drastic now!

No, but really, this is how the majority of women out there think these days. Why is it that we tell ourselves life is over if we are not married with children, or close to it by 30?? i cannot tell you how many friends, and friends of friends that i know who i have seen go through this, and are STILL going through this right now.

All of your friends have been married now for about 3-5 years and all of them are popping out kids already! YOU are the “single” friend. You are the 3rd wheel. and every time you are sitting there among alllll the coupled up “so inlove” people you know,  you can’t help but feel the sad pathetic stares coming at you from every angle. On a good night you will pump yourself up. “I have an amazing career that has allowed me to travel the world! I like my own money, and my own space! I can go out and get drunk every weekend and make out with a new boy every night if i really wanted to…  I can leave my dirty clothes on the floor, the cap of the toothpaste, and play my Body Guard soundtrack as loud as i want without ANYONE complaining about it!  I am missing nothing in life! this is exactly where i want to be.”

SO which is true?? ARE you happy with where you are at in life? Is the only reason you are feeling depressed, because you are turning 30??  Is it all the pressure by friends and family to be married getting to you? OR is it because you really truly want to be in a life long committed relationship? You have kissed enough frogs. You are tired of being alone and just wish you had someone amazing to share your life with.

I think we all need to be honest with ourselves because what we might think we are ready for just based on our age is NOT in fact what we are ready for at all. Every person is different and if we become too consumed by what society tells us we will never be truly happy at all.

I have seen people force relationships into marriage because they thought they were getting old. These relationships usually don’t last, and if they do its not without A LOT of painful growing experiences along the way.  There is nothing wrong with not being married by a certain age unless you in fact think you have been ready to be married for a long time but just haven’t found the right person. If this is the case and you have exhausted all of your efforts in finding “Mr. Right” then i would seek therapy and find out what it is about you that keeps you from what you truly want in life. you might be surprised at what you find out about yourself. Lets face it too, marrying Mr. Good Enough just isn’t good enough. you deserve better.

GIRLS,, if you are someone who is simply feeling depressed because your dirty thirty is seconds away and you just always pictured yourself married with 3 kids by now, get over it. YOU WILL get married if this is what you truly want but don’t force anything. Enjoy these moments! Timing is everything and when you finally do meet the right person you will know, and you will realize it was all worth the wait!  xo

Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson, and now Whitney Houston. Its difficult enough being a young normal person trying to stay away from the wrong people, the partying, the drugs, etc…but there is something about Hollywood. if you are not a seriously strong person you WILL get sucked into the dark side of that crazy world. The short time i spent in what they jokingly call “LA LA Land” was an odd one…i remember being 20 years old going to these elite parties in the hills and seeing cocaine for the very first time in my life. these two beautiful supermodel looking girls and two men in suits were just sitting at a table chopping it up and snorting it in front of everyone as if they were merely puffing on a cigarette.  i went into panic mode and was out of there in 3 mins flat. it was bad enough growing up finding my parents already smoked heroin foils all over my house, i was not about to start hanging around the types of people i was trying so desperately to escape. this was one of my first “welcome to Hollywood” experiences, and it was overwhelming to say the least.

Everyone knows Drugs and Hollywood go hand in hand and sadly most of these celebrity deaths do not come as a shock to us. But one does wonder how all of this comes about. i have to be honest and say that when i found out Whitney was using drugs about 5 years ago i was in shock. as a kid i looked up to her, wanted to be her. she was America’s sweetheart. And then…. she met Bobby Brown. i know you were all thinking what i was thinking at the time,, really?! the “ain’t nobody humpin around” guy?? he seemed and still seems like the biggest idiot on planet earth. Whitney was a big girl and obviously no one shoved a crack pipe in her mouth and said, “smoke!” though we will never truly know,,(until Bobbi Christina comes out with a tell all)  i tend to think Bobby Brown was a bigger influence than most realize. Whitney made some seriously wrong choices, in men, and in life. and because of that the world lost one of its greatest voices, a mother lost a daughter, and a daughter lost a mother.

There is always that pivotal moment in life when you are faced with a decision that you know will change the complete outcome of your life all together. The moment you decide to end a long term relationship you know is going in the wrong direction,  the moment when you decide to take that job offer in London, the moment you decide to say “no thanks” when someone offers you an illegal substance you know you could potentially become dependent on. these moments and these decisions define us. ask yourself if you are happy with where you are in life. if you are not happy i guarantee that somewhere along the line you made some wrong decisions… and you know what they are. remember it is never too late to start making better choices in life.  think it through, say a little prayer, and go with your gut.

-”With each passing moment is another chance to turn it all around.” -Vanilla Sky

“Every time you don’t follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness.” -Shakti Gawain

“Every human being has, like Socrates, an attendant spirit; and wise are they who obey its signals. If it does not always tell us what to do, it always cautions us what not to do.” -Lydia M. Child

so inlove with this song and video.